What its Wellness Wednesday!!!!

Its Wednesday I’m feeling good (no reported client relapses today) and I have some minor down time so let me see if I can pull this post together! Lately my clients have been struggling with decision making. It seems so easy to me. Weigh your options and go with the one that is best for you. I am a list person so I write out the pros and cons and boom the decision kind of makes itself. Still you wouldn’t believe how hard that may be for some for whatever reason.  So the 7 clients I saw today inspired this post. How to make a decision….



 

 

1.       Look past the moment.- In recovery lingo they say “play the tape all the way through.” This just means once the decision is made what type of benefits and consequences may follow. A sign of immaturity is going for that instant gratification, and making the decision in the present moment not caring what happens next. It is important to remember one decision may have very long lasting term benefits or consequences.

2.       Is this a head or a heart choice?- Head choices tend to be practical, calculated, and make a lot sense. While heart choices feel right they speak to your passions as a person. Now this one is tricky because in some instances you need to follow your heat, but there are also times when it may lead you astray and you have to use your head. In my personal life the choices I am most happy with had a good combo of the two.

3.       Ask yourself will I be ok if this doesn’t work?- When thinking about failure this includes money, love, relationships, energy and time that we feel is wasted. Should your decision not work out the way you planned are you resilient enough to bounce back. For example betting your whole life savings on a race. If you lose then what? Do you have income to rebuild what you lost?

4.       How will this effect those around me?- This is especially important for those of us who are attached to someone (ie- kids, spouses).  Once the decision is made should it be great or a great disaster how are others effected. Keeping the race example from above if you lose your saving will your children be able to attend college, get braces?

 



 

So there you have it. This post pretty much sums up the day I have had LOL. Except that I often have to say how will drugs effect the outcome? LOL Hope you enjoyed this. What’s your decision making process?

Encouraging Photo Dump

SO if you are a reader you know that lately I have been in a funk. I have been dealing with A LOT. I have been feeling guilty about not going to the gym like I should, not being June Cleaver (that is the really domestic perfect housewife right? If not you get it), being stuck at a certain weight, blogging (because sometimes I do it from home and the Mr. rolls his eyes), feeling like a bad parent... You know all the regular crap us mommys feel. No this is  not another Debbie Downer post I was simply setting the back drop...

In an effort to cheer up I decided lets go get the hair done. All women feel better when we feel we look better I am no exception. So I head out to a trendy spot 30 minutes from home to my stylist...

Lunatic Fringe

They gave me Voss water, they also had coffee and coke products

Curls!!!!!

But that fix was only temporary... all those negative things were back in my mind and left me looking like this...

This was me mentally abusing myself thinking of every failure as well as the above mentioned things while looking at my house look like we just moved yesterday...

Why is this not hung up?

So I decided hey loser get off your fat ass and stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it sooo...

Excuse the clothes on the couch Im not perfect... I honestly feel better about emptying 3 more boxes and hanging some stuff on the wall. I know some of you trendy moms are frowning at my beige walls but  suck it up I live in an apt complex that will charge out the ass for painting the walls soooo beige it is. I may get some of that movers wall paper at a later date or not LOL...

Which left me feeling like this

I wanted to share this because even as a therapist I have bad days, weeks, and mood swings. Sure I know techniques to help manage my moods but using those techniques is work, and lets be all the way real when yo are feeling down you don't want to work. Its ok. What is not ok is to stay in the funk. Somehow you have to find the strength to fix what is causing you sadness No one can improve your state of being but you (and you Higher Power as you understand him)....

Let me leave you with some pics:

Us at mini me soccer practice

My shirt and bag came in the mail!!!

My babe not wanting to take pictures... :(