Wellness Wednesday!- Fear

Previously I did a post on decision making.That process is a therapist’s attempt to help people make rational decisions using logic and emotions, because life runs on both. Unfortunately we have the ability to over think things. We often allow fear to make us be still when what we really need is to move forward. We let the “what ifs” and “maybe not” or our own insecurities stop us from doing what we need to do to excel.

Stepping outside of our comfort zone is very scary and I will be the first to admit that even I have to talk myself out of my comfort box but honey the view on the other side is amazing. Recently I took a new job. When I tell you I cried off and on that first week I am downplaying the tears. No one was mean to me but it wasn’t my old job.

The sense of security and comfort of the previous gig was gone. Now this is not to say that the old place didn’t have its issues and bugs but it surprisingly was home. I felt like I was leaving my family.

Entering into this new role has been challenging and scary. I’m a dam good therapist. My style does not work for everyone but I am good at what I do(did). Its my passion I love to know that I’m helping others. My new role is that of a planner and coordinator in a world that I am unfamiliar with.  I’m still helping others just in a different way and I have had to come to terms with that. Fear is an understatement of what I felt in my new position. Along with the fear I felt extreme guilt. Guilt about leaving my clients, my coworkers, and the work in general. I mean I went to school for this right. My previous boss told me “never feel bad about doing what is right for your family.”

This job is right for my family in more ways than the pay increase. It gives me more time. Its less stress and I’m not as drained when I come home (so far). I said all that to say that we can never allow fear to hold us back. We cannot be afraid to make that leap. I say whether it is taking a new job, leaving a relationship, going to the gym for the first time, whatever it is take a deep breath and go!!!!